People generally come into your life for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.
Understanding this principle can enhance your relationships by helping you better serve others and learn or grow from what they have to offer.
Reason
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it may be they have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance. They may be in your life to support you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
A difficult person can challenge you to grow in patience, forgiveness, and/or understanding. Some people may test your strength, commitment, willpower, determination, and/or ethics. A positive and supportive person who comes into our life may seem like a blessing and godsend; and they are. In either case, the person has come into your life for the reason needed.
One day, seemingly without any reason, the relationship may come to an end. This may happen over time as you drift apart, or more suddenly. It may be a positive experience such as someone getting married or moving to another city to take a job offer. Or, the relationship may end through negative circumstances that force you to take a stand on an issue.
What we must realize is that a need has been met – for you and for them. Perhaps it was an unknown need, or maybe it was an answer to a prayer. If the relationship has ended, then reflect, give thanks, consider what you learned, think about what you could/would do better next time (even if you felt the relationship was a good one), forgive if needed, hope/wish/pray the best for that person, and then move on in your journey.
Season
Some people come into your life for a SEASON — an extended period of time. Just as there are seasons for planting, growing, and harvesting; in your life, there are seasons when you are prepared to learn, grow, or produce. There are other times in your life when you’re not prepared to grow, learn, or even listen. So, when someone comes into your life at a certain season, it is (hopefully) because the timing is right for what they can offer you.
This person may bring you an experience of great peace, joy, or happiness. They may empower you to do something you have never done before. They may you assurance and strengthen your self-confidence. Accept this, and embrace it. It is real. Yet, maybe for only for a season.
Consider… In life, you may have tasks on a To Do list as well as long-term projects that need to be pursued over a period of weeks, months, or years. In the same way, those who come into your life for a short-term Reason, may help you check something off our To Do list. Those who come into your life for a Season will (hopefully) remain for the duration of a more complex long-term purpose.
Lifetime
Some people are in your life for a LIFETIME. These people are, perhaps, the greatest blessing because they stick with you through the Reasons, Seasons, and through your entire lifetime. Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons. These are often qualities, skills, and aspects of your character you must build upon in order to have a solid foundation for yourself and in service to others. Be sure to acknowledge, value, be thankful for, and love the people who are in your life for a lifetime. Apply what you have learned. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Your Assignment: Reflect, Learn, Grow
Take time to be intentionally and contentiously thankful for everyone in your life; whether they are in your life for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime. Know that you are in other peoples’ lives for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime. Re-read the above writing, and think about your family, friends, colleagues, clients, and acquaintances. As yourself, “What calling and purpose am I best equipped to help this person in their life on their life’s journey?” You may or may not feel you know if you are in their life for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime. Consider, meditate, and pray about how you can best be of service on every level for everyone you know. If you’re in someone’s life for a reason, don’t bail out on them prior to seeing things through. Know that most relationships are two ways. Don’t presume you are in someone’s life to serve them for a reason or season without considering what it is you need to learn from them.
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With all the above in mind, watch the video If Today Was Your Last Day by Nickelback.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
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Tuesday, July 6, 2010
6 Questions to Ask Yourself to Get the Most Out of Life
“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” – Abraham Lincoln
I love reading lists of things to do before you die, but after reading several of these lists, I’ve realized that each list is a very personal thing. It can only apply to the writer of the list, and not to all human beings in general. No such list can do that.
And think about this: if you’re trying to follow a list of things to do before you die … trying to check things off the list, just to say you’ve done it … what’s the point, really? To be able to tell people you’ve done it? To follow the life prescription of some writer?
I won’t try to tell you what to do before you die … but I will suggest some questions to figure out how to live … right now. Each and every day.
Because you never know how much time you have left, and trying to cram a list of things into that unknown time can be futile. Instead, live every day to the fullest. Get the most out of life.
1. Who do I love, and what am I doing about it? When someone dies (two of my kids’ grandmother just died, so I’ve been thinking about this a lot), you realize that you never know how much time you have with the people you love. They can go at any time — as can you. And so you must make the most of this time.
If you aren’t spending time with the people you love, change that. If you are holding a grudge against a family member, let it go and reconcile. If you’ve done something to hurt a loved one, ask for forgiveness. Drop the pride, and make up. If you haven’t seen someone in awhile, call them now to set up a date.
2. Am I pursuing my dream, or is fear stopping me? What have you always wanted to do? Maybe something you dreamed of as a child but have given up as unrealistic? Maybe something you still want to do but are afraid of failing? What fears are stopping you? And what would be the worst that could happen if you overcame those fears and pursued your dream?
If you’re already pursuing your dream, pat yourself on the back. You’re doing awesome!
3. Am I doing something that matters? There’s a difference between doing work, and doing work that really matters. Much of the time, we use up the few days we have on this earth with busy-work, stuff that doesn’t make much difference, and that’s sadly a waste of our lives.
Recently on Dumb Little Man, writer Ali Hale suggested you ask yourself, “Will this matter in five years?” I think this is a great question. It helps you distinguish between trivial busy-work that will take up all of your time but not matter in a few years, and tasks and projects and goals with high impact that will make a difference, in your career, in your life, in the lives of others.
4. What am I doing to help others? Kind of ironically, you get the most out of life not just by taking what you can for yourself, but by giving to others. What have you done lately to help people out? Have you been kind to people? Have you been compassionate? Have you been there for anyone? Listened? Volunteered for those in need? If you’re not doing anything to help others, this is a good time to figure out one thing you can do for someone, and put it into action. Ask this question on a regular basis, and you’ll make kindness a habit.
“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” – Albert Einstein
5. Am I as good a person as I want to be? I ask this of myself all the time. Sometimes, when I’m impatient or selfish or less-than-helpful, I think back on what I’ve said and done and realize that I could have done better. Instead of beating myself up about it, I endeavor to try harder, to remember to allow my better angels to guide me, to rise above the trivialities of life to a higher plane.
It’s not easy to be a good person, at least not all of the time. It’s easier to be selfish, without thinking about it. But is that how you want to be remembered? Is that how you want to live your life? Give it some thought, and act accordingly.
6. What am I doing to live life with passion, health and energy? You can do all the right things, and yet live a life that’s dull and sluggish. If you let your health go, you will have little energy and you will waste the minutes you have left on illness. Instead, learn to live a healthy life, with good foods and exercise. This will lead to more energy in your life. And then direct that energy into something you’re passionate about. If you haven’t found that passion (or passions), start looking. You’ll thank me. :)
“We are always getting ready to live but never living.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
I love reading lists of things to do before you die, but after reading several of these lists, I’ve realized that each list is a very personal thing. It can only apply to the writer of the list, and not to all human beings in general. No such list can do that.
And think about this: if you’re trying to follow a list of things to do before you die … trying to check things off the list, just to say you’ve done it … what’s the point, really? To be able to tell people you’ve done it? To follow the life prescription of some writer?
I won’t try to tell you what to do before you die … but I will suggest some questions to figure out how to live … right now. Each and every day.
Because you never know how much time you have left, and trying to cram a list of things into that unknown time can be futile. Instead, live every day to the fullest. Get the most out of life.
1. Who do I love, and what am I doing about it? When someone dies (two of my kids’ grandmother just died, so I’ve been thinking about this a lot), you realize that you never know how much time you have with the people you love. They can go at any time — as can you. And so you must make the most of this time.
If you aren’t spending time with the people you love, change that. If you are holding a grudge against a family member, let it go and reconcile. If you’ve done something to hurt a loved one, ask for forgiveness. Drop the pride, and make up. If you haven’t seen someone in awhile, call them now to set up a date.
2. Am I pursuing my dream, or is fear stopping me? What have you always wanted to do? Maybe something you dreamed of as a child but have given up as unrealistic? Maybe something you still want to do but are afraid of failing? What fears are stopping you? And what would be the worst that could happen if you overcame those fears and pursued your dream?
If you’re already pursuing your dream, pat yourself on the back. You’re doing awesome!
3. Am I doing something that matters? There’s a difference between doing work, and doing work that really matters. Much of the time, we use up the few days we have on this earth with busy-work, stuff that doesn’t make much difference, and that’s sadly a waste of our lives.
Recently on Dumb Little Man, writer Ali Hale suggested you ask yourself, “Will this matter in five years?” I think this is a great question. It helps you distinguish between trivial busy-work that will take up all of your time but not matter in a few years, and tasks and projects and goals with high impact that will make a difference, in your career, in your life, in the lives of others.
4. What am I doing to help others? Kind of ironically, you get the most out of life not just by taking what you can for yourself, but by giving to others. What have you done lately to help people out? Have you been kind to people? Have you been compassionate? Have you been there for anyone? Listened? Volunteered for those in need? If you’re not doing anything to help others, this is a good time to figure out one thing you can do for someone, and put it into action. Ask this question on a regular basis, and you’ll make kindness a habit.
“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” – Albert Einstein
5. Am I as good a person as I want to be? I ask this of myself all the time. Sometimes, when I’m impatient or selfish or less-than-helpful, I think back on what I’ve said and done and realize that I could have done better. Instead of beating myself up about it, I endeavor to try harder, to remember to allow my better angels to guide me, to rise above the trivialities of life to a higher plane.
It’s not easy to be a good person, at least not all of the time. It’s easier to be selfish, without thinking about it. But is that how you want to be remembered? Is that how you want to live your life? Give it some thought, and act accordingly.
6. What am I doing to live life with passion, health and energy? You can do all the right things, and yet live a life that’s dull and sluggish. If you let your health go, you will have little energy and you will waste the minutes you have left on illness. Instead, learn to live a healthy life, with good foods and exercise. This will lead to more energy in your life. And then direct that energy into something you’re passionate about. If you haven’t found that passion (or passions), start looking. You’ll thank me. :)
“We are always getting ready to live but never living.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Monday, June 21, 2010
Great Events So Far
I guess it is finally time to update you on my life. I do apologize because there is so much.
I was finally made full time staff this May. I'm so very excited. It has made me feel so grown up and in charge of my life.
My two baby cousins graduated from college. Topaz from Longwood and MeShel from Virginia Commonwealth. It is amazing feeling when someone who you've held when they were days old accomplishes great things. Even more humbling when they talk about how you've been a role model for them. I could not have been as focused without their down-to-earth sensibilities. Those are my sisters.
Job has been great. We have so many things in the pipeline and in production. Main Street Mysteries is going on a second season for Investigation Discovery. Nat Geo is getting The World's Fastest Rollercoaster on the Ferrari coaster in Abu Dhabi (i wanna go on that shoot), three Survival 360 episodes, and an episode for their Break It Down series entitled "Phantom F4" which chronicles the deconstruction of a supersonic Vietnam Jet. Discovery still has Attack of the Giant Jellyfish in production. Animal Planet greenlit a pilot for Occult Detectives, and Discovery greenlit a pilot episode of Swamp Brothers series which will air in February. If it does well, we'll get a seeeeeriiiiiiees! Plus we have series in front of MTV, SyFy, and A&E. Let's go; let's go!!
With all the excitement going on, my social life seems uneventful. Jen and I are moving out of the Washington Blvd house to a Balston Tower in July. I can't wait. Along with that I will most likely be joining the Orange Iguanas for the next kickball season.
BTW definitely trying to move on. Go towards a next phase in my life. As Joey told me recently, how can you continue to try and make something work when your partner in crime concedes defeat and gives up without you. So ::brushes off hands:: that's that.
On the brighter note, I got to hang out with my guys this weekend. A night of laughs, beirut, and hottub time on Friday. Got to check in with Alex and Liz. Scared Ben's girl with all our out-of-the-box talk. And catching up with my dear dear Lee. Boy had i missed our talks. It always seems like another world when i'm there. Another life. But these are the ones who know me best. Who've known me forever. Being there is like a refresher; i get to feel normal and recharge from the down-ers of my life. And Beer Festival with Chris, Ry, and Nate was fantastic. And I got to meet some great new friends. Thank you guys for making my life wonderful
I was finally made full time staff this May. I'm so very excited. It has made me feel so grown up and in charge of my life.
My two baby cousins graduated from college. Topaz from Longwood and MeShel from Virginia Commonwealth. It is amazing feeling when someone who you've held when they were days old accomplishes great things. Even more humbling when they talk about how you've been a role model for them. I could not have been as focused without their down-to-earth sensibilities. Those are my sisters.
Job has been great. We have so many things in the pipeline and in production. Main Street Mysteries is going on a second season for Investigation Discovery. Nat Geo is getting The World's Fastest Rollercoaster on the Ferrari coaster in Abu Dhabi (i wanna go on that shoot), three Survival 360 episodes, and an episode for their Break It Down series entitled "Phantom F4" which chronicles the deconstruction of a supersonic Vietnam Jet. Discovery still has Attack of the Giant Jellyfish in production. Animal Planet greenlit a pilot for Occult Detectives, and Discovery greenlit a pilot episode of Swamp Brothers series which will air in February. If it does well, we'll get a seeeeeriiiiiiees! Plus we have series in front of MTV, SyFy, and A&E. Let's go; let's go!!
With all the excitement going on, my social life seems uneventful. Jen and I are moving out of the Washington Blvd house to a Balston Tower in July. I can't wait. Along with that I will most likely be joining the Orange Iguanas for the next kickball season.
BTW definitely trying to move on. Go towards a next phase in my life. As Joey told me recently, how can you continue to try and make something work when your partner in crime concedes defeat and gives up without you. So ::brushes off hands:: that's that.
On the brighter note, I got to hang out with my guys this weekend. A night of laughs, beirut, and hottub time on Friday. Got to check in with Alex and Liz. Scared Ben's girl with all our out-of-the-box talk. And catching up with my dear dear Lee. Boy had i missed our talks. It always seems like another world when i'm there. Another life. But these are the ones who know me best. Who've known me forever. Being there is like a refresher; i get to feel normal and recharge from the down-ers of my life. And Beer Festival with Chris, Ry, and Nate was fantastic. And I got to meet some great new friends. Thank you guys for making my life wonderful
Friday, June 4, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
Full-Time
Hey all. I'm finally a full-time staff member of Story House and Third Floor Productions.
Benefits and everything!!!
Benefits and everything!!!
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Friday, February 5, 2010
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Working 11-13 hours days at the moment. Can't wait to get back on a 9:30-6 schedule. That would be sweet!
I'm up working right now at 7:45AM. There is a television/entertainment conference at the Renaissance DC that my bosses are attending. I'm along to help reserve space and keep their schedules/notes up-to-date. An overall managing job, but that requires I get here early enough to get a table and reserve chairs. I am so not a morning person, but constantly I amaze my self by how productive I CAN be when I get up, have breakfast, and actually utilize a list of things to accomplish.
This Realscreen conference... it is like another card in my pocket because I am now here meeting this people (briefly), getting to see their faces and getting them to associate mine with all those emails that they get. Not to mention that I have been in charge of everything. And trying to keep these guys on track is hard!
I'm just relieved that it is almost over
I'm up working right now at 7:45AM. There is a television/entertainment conference at the Renaissance DC that my bosses are attending. I'm along to help reserve space and keep their schedules/notes up-to-date. An overall managing job, but that requires I get here early enough to get a table and reserve chairs. I am so not a morning person, but constantly I amaze my self by how productive I CAN be when I get up, have breakfast, and actually utilize a list of things to accomplish.
This Realscreen conference... it is like another card in my pocket because I am now here meeting this people (briefly), getting to see their faces and getting them to associate mine with all those emails that they get. Not to mention that I have been in charge of everything. And trying to keep these guys on track is hard!
I'm just relieved that it is almost over
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
A New Year... New Possibilities
A New Year... New Possibilities.
Story House Productions is on a roll. 2012 and The Real Wolfman did very well. Our Jellyfish Special is moving right along at Discovery. ID wants a pilot of another series. We're in constant battle about our croc guys because Nat Geo just commissioned Python Hunters or something stupid.
Realscreen conference is next week here in DC and I've been working to get meetings set up. We've been lucky. OWN, A&E, truTV, Slice, MTV, Canwest (food, hgtv, and diy in canada), VH1, etc. It is a pain in my back though. Hopefully things will work out and I'll be able to tag along.
I joined Fitness First and got a trainer. Robert kicks my ass two times a week. It's good for my morale.
Living with four (well actually five) fabulous people and a silly cat. I'm continuously nesting. My room is almost done. In the process of looking for a nice dresser.
So I work and work and work and work out and sleep. yay for the real world!
Story House Productions is on a roll. 2012 and The Real Wolfman did very well. Our Jellyfish Special is moving right along at Discovery. ID wants a pilot of another series. We're in constant battle about our croc guys because Nat Geo just commissioned Python Hunters or something stupid.
Realscreen conference is next week here in DC and I've been working to get meetings set up. We've been lucky. OWN, A&E, truTV, Slice, MTV, Canwest (food, hgtv, and diy in canada), VH1, etc. It is a pain in my back though. Hopefully things will work out and I'll be able to tag along.
I joined Fitness First and got a trainer. Robert kicks my ass two times a week. It's good for my morale.
Living with four (well actually five) fabulous people and a silly cat. I'm continuously nesting. My room is almost done. In the process of looking for a nice dresser.
So I work and work and work and work out and sleep. yay for the real world!
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